No Expectations, No Disappointments
This phrase is definitely one of my favourites, one I hold dear, the one that is always a self reminder.
I know, realistically both expectations and disappointments are inevitable but I like to think that it is our decision when it comes how we choose to handle it. For most of my life, I’ve always been living up to other peoples’ expectations - how to be a better student, a better child, a better sibling even a better lover - a constant battle of who and who is always better than me.
I guess you don’t realize such things when you’re too busy striving and working hard to please everyone around you. Maybe your thoughts are like mine - if they are happy, then I am too. Funny how I never once ask myself - why don’t you do things for yourself? To be a better version of yourself, for your own sake? (Oh well, we were all foolish once.)
With time, it was too late to realize how deep of a grave I had dug for myself and that how little sunshine left that I could see.
I thought someone would notice that I was gone, but rather the opposite happened - no one noticed because everyone was busy living their own lives, circling in their own orbit. The truth is no one cares and you have to accept it as it is. Pick yourself up and make your way to the top again, because only you can save yourself. Your expectations on others may just bring you more disappointments that you would never expect.
Save yourself, always.
Another lesson that I learnt is to not rely on others for your happiness. You are responsible for your own happiness. As they said - love yourself before you can love others. Similarly, make yourself happy first and the rest will follow. You will never satisfy everyone anyway.
This once in a lifetime chance is too much to waste on being sad and negative all the time. There are so many other things to look forward to. Life is such a waste if we spend time being sad and negative all the time. There are so many other things to look forward to. I know that now :)
Just a random thought of doing something different, and hopefully fun. Having a section at the end of a thought post with open ended questions. I’ll definitely need to google more prompts such as this to keep things going.
Question of the day
Given the choice of turning back time, what would you do?’
I asked my friend this question, of whom I chatted until 1am at a cafe. Their answer was ‘I’d go back to the time where I wouldn’t make a decision that I currently now regret.’ Mine was simply ‘If I could go back time, I wouldn’t choose to study what I think I was good at. I would ask myself to choose something I love and perhaps something I’m interested in.’
I can’t imagine how life would be if I could turn back time.
As sad and regretful it sounded, I didn’t regret studying what I did to please my parents nor meeting some people that I’ll probably never met if I didn’t venture on this path. It’s just that I wish I would’ve done something I like to do, something I enjoy. Perhaps then, it’ll be easier to find the dream job - where I’ll never dread another day at work. That kind of life.
What about you? Tell me what would you do, if you could turn back time? (Or rather if you have the Space stone?) I promise I won’t tell a soul ;)
Woohoo! Second post done and dusted. Not bad for a NY resolutions, eh? Though I was having a hard time steeering myself back in the right direction - at least this was a fairly good attempt.
Can’t wait to come back here soon.
Love, Sara
I know, realistically both expectations and disappointments are inevitable but I like to think that it is our decision when it comes how we choose to handle it. For most of my life, I’ve always been living up to other peoples’ expectations - how to be a better student, a better child, a better sibling even a better lover - a constant battle of who and who is always better than me.
I guess you don’t realize such things when you’re too busy striving and working hard to please everyone around you. Maybe your thoughts are like mine - if they are happy, then I am too. Funny how I never once ask myself - why don’t you do things for yourself? To be a better version of yourself, for your own sake? (Oh well, we were all foolish once.)
With time, it was too late to realize how deep of a grave I had dug for myself and that how little sunshine left that I could see.
I thought someone would notice that I was gone, but rather the opposite happened - no one noticed because everyone was busy living their own lives, circling in their own orbit. The truth is no one cares and you have to accept it as it is. Pick yourself up and make your way to the top again, because only you can save yourself. Your expectations on others may just bring you more disappointments that you would never expect.
Save yourself, always.
Another lesson that I learnt is to not rely on others for your happiness. You are responsible for your own happiness. As they said - love yourself before you can love others. Similarly, make yourself happy first and the rest will follow. You will never satisfy everyone anyway.
This once in a lifetime chance is too much to waste on being sad and negative all the time. There are so many other things to look forward to. Life is such a waste if we spend time being sad and negative all the time. There are so many other things to look forward to. I know that now :)
Just a random thought of doing something different, and hopefully fun. Having a section at the end of a thought post with open ended questions. I’ll definitely need to google more prompts such as this to keep things going.
Question of the day
Given the choice of turning back time, what would you do?’
I asked my friend this question, of whom I chatted until 1am at a cafe. Their answer was ‘I’d go back to the time where I wouldn’t make a decision that I currently now regret.’ Mine was simply ‘If I could go back time, I wouldn’t choose to study what I think I was good at. I would ask myself to choose something I love and perhaps something I’m interested in.’
I can’t imagine how life would be if I could turn back time.
As sad and regretful it sounded, I didn’t regret studying what I did to please my parents nor meeting some people that I’ll probably never met if I didn’t venture on this path. It’s just that I wish I would’ve done something I like to do, something I enjoy. Perhaps then, it’ll be easier to find the dream job - where I’ll never dread another day at work. That kind of life.
What about you? Tell me what would you do, if you could turn back time? (Or rather if you have the Space stone?) I promise I won’t tell a soul ;)
Woohoo! Second post done and dusted. Not bad for a NY resolutions, eh? Though I was having a hard time steeering myself back in the right direction - at least this was a fairly good attempt.
Can’t wait to come back here soon.
Love, Sara
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